With Valentines (take your money) Day around the corner so many In love or Lust and so much is put on having a Mate. But A Question was put on me in a Discussion with some of My many Single and Married Saved friends that feel like God himself is a Matchmaker or a Cupid sort to speak. Me Myself and a Few others Believe God is NOT a Matchmaker he instead Gives us Free will and allows us to pick our Own Mate Based on the Guidelines he's given us in the bible. But OOOOOOH NOOOO don't let me Go against what some believe Good Ole Passtah said since he's been Saved and Filled with the Holy Spirit since Moses was around but does what HE say make it correct? I've spoke to some Pastors who think as I do whom have said they believe the bible is a Guide for us here on earth to use and WE choose. So My whole thing is, Do you believe God is a Matchmaker/Cupid or Do we have Free will to Choose?
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I do agree with your blog, however we can't put God in a box. He can do any and everything beyond what we may ask or think. I truly beleive we do have free will yet in the same token I believe that God can order your steps and lead you to the one that he has already predestined for you.
I AGREE LIKE NO OTHER to what you said, "True to the Game" But I've had people Mainly women that would Dissagree.. Stating "God Bringing me my Huuuuuuusband" Pastah prophetized about it last Sunday God sending him. I'm like wow!!! Now it's up to us I believe to agree to follow the steps God has set for us but I don't believe God is playing cupid.
Well Focus , you know we had this convo many times,lol, and we differ. I totally agree with True , God can order your steps , and that means even in finding a mate . He can put you in the right place at the right time .
The thing about God and free will is: yes, God gives you free will, but he will also give you direction. You have the free will to decide whether to follow his lead and go in his direction or to wander in the other direction.
I believe that God is the ultimate matchmaker. He made the first couple. He made Eve for Adam. He knew that Adam would be lonely without a companion. If God provided someone for Adam, why would he not do the same for each one of us? You can always use your free will to ask God to bring a love into your life that is a God-made match, but you have to choose to do that. Otherwise, I suppose you're just leaving it up to chance if you choose to leave God out of this one. Hopefully your future partner is the one praying to find you then.
And Valentines Day is not (take your money day ) unless you choose it to be . IF you got a girl like me, who is not materialistic, you good to go ... I'm happy with a quiet romantic evening and some good lovin!!
"Cherry" why does one need a special Day to tell his sweetie he cares? Shouldn't that be everyday? and "Inamorata" Okay God Created Adam and Eve and all so that Means he's a match maker for everyone? Seriously what about the part in the bible that states, "A Man that FINDS a Wife finds a Good thing?" Not a Man that Allows good to Hook him up"
Yeah, what is it about guys and looking down on Valentines day anyway??? love and commerce don't mix. It shouldn't cost anything to say "be mine" or "I love you; let me show you".
Just get creative.
"A Man that FINDS a Wife finds a Good thing?"
I am not a biblical scholar or theologian by any means, but what I would take from that is, one is entering into a journey with God to trust Him that He will provide a love in their life in His timing and that they will stay faithful to Him in their waiting and asking for this earthly love.
I would consider ALL of that part of FINDING a wife/GOOD thing.
I have no question that some Christians benefit from the belief that God predestines your spouse. It inspires many married couples to view their relationship as more than a chance occurrence and to appreciate the hand of God in bringing them together. This leads to deeper reverence for Christ and greater faithfulness in their marriage. Many who are single, too, take heart in the thought that if God wants them to be married, he will move mountains to make it happen. They are inspired to stay hopeful and to take the sometimes scary steps needed to find a spouse.Yet I find that just as frequency this viewpoint has an adverse effect on Christians. Some who are married feel an unhealthy sense of superiority over single friends for having been handpicked by God for the estate of marriage. Others are too quick to blame God for problems that come up in their marriage (see, for example, Gen 3:12!).
We have a choice in everything we do in life, but God does bring people into our lives for a reason and its up to us whether or not we are going to use His guidance when we look at and deal with those people. Sometimes we may miss out on someone whom God had in mind for us because of our "choice."
That verse leads me to believe that we blame each other rather than ourselves. We as people need to take ownership for our parts. It takes hard work for any relationship to work. That work doesn't just go away and I think a lot of people fail to realize that. People think once you're married, that's it, the hard work of dating is done and you can relax. Marriage is even harder in my opinion.
Adam blamed Eve for giving him that fruit. In one respect, yes, she did, but he chose to take it from her and then eat it. She couldn't make that choice for him. God was calling him on it. Adam also blamed God for creating Eve.
People just hate to be the one in the wrong.
I know I hate it, but learning to take responsibility for my own actions is part of being an adult, being a true woman, and being a great partner in a relationship. (Vice versa for men, of course)
Most unfortunate, though, is the paralyzing effect this notion sometimes has on single Christians who want to be married. Some conclude that any personal effort to find a spouse is outside the bounds of faith. Changing jobs or churches to improve the prospects of meeting someone compatible, for instance, is out of the question. Faith demands that you sit still and wait for God to bring the right person to your doorstep. Now do you actually Believe that?
When did God ever say do NOTHING? To wait on the Lord is one thing, but if you sit home and stay inside you'll never find anyone. You still need to get out there so you can meet the person you are asking God to help you meet.
I also believe singleness is a gift from God. You cant be right for someone else until you're right with yourself. God knows all areas of your heart, he knows when you have old issues and hurts to fix from past relationships before you enter into another one that he brings together.
Also, sometimes people just stress too much on one little area of their lives, if they'd cut it out and learn to be content with what they have been given so far, more may be given to them in the future, including a mate.
During the course of our lives most of us have gotten to the point we were fed up with bad relationships. For some, we dated heavily to forget or to get thru. Few of us stopped dating all together and the rest of us dropped to our knees to ask God/Jesus to send us a good mate. When the good mate arrives, we thank God/Jesus for sending us our perfect match. Now was us finding our perfect match fate or faith? It all depends on the way one look at it.
If the relationship ends then does that means that really was not the mate God had for you? How do we know if this is our chosen mate or just another life's lesson to help us be right for when our perfect mate arrive? What part did God have in the whole situation?
We all no there is no perfect mate. I heard one woman mention the hardwork that has to be done in any successful relationship. That is true with anything God gives us or things we want to keep. We have to properly provide constant maintenence if we want it to last.
Everyone here has very good points. It seems that many people in general think that you can't have a fulfilling life if you are not married or in a relationship. I personally believe that no one truly wants to be alone, but your life can still be fulfilling with out a significant other. I also believe that God does put people in your life for a reason, but it is up to us to recognize if that person is there for us to potentially spend the rest of our lives with.
I once prayed that God would help me to be happy with myself so that I could be happy with someone else if being with someone else was in his plan for me. I personally would like to be married one day, but I don't think being married will make me feel any more or less of a person than I am now. After all we were ultimately put on this earth to serve God not our significant others, however if we are fortunate enough to serve God with a teammate then great!
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