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Well it seem that a Great Question was brought up in another blog and the question was. "If I don't believe in interracial relationships does that make me a racist?" I was like DAAAAAAAYUUUUM!!!! THAT'S GOOD!! THX (Anonymous!) but a responce came like a theif in the night and shook up my lil blog that made sense to me also: "If someone chooses to be in an interracial relationship, but you do not, does their relationship really affect you at all? Does anyone's personal, intimate, relationship really affect others, who are non-related to the relationship? Race and all other factors aside." thanks!! (Inamorata) Let's discuss this.. OH NO fighting! just heavy Debates
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HONESTLY!! HELL NO!! If someone is dating another race and someone else doesn't like it well ummmmmmm doesn't affect them so it should not matter to them.
Focus I read somewhere on your blog you was starting to have an open mind towards dating outside your race, which meant at some point you didn't carry that same perspective. Did something recently change in your life that made you take a different outlook on the situation? You don't have to like something, just keep in mind the things you can and can't change. Different things affect different people in different ways. The same things that might bug me, you love. I can't change everything that bugs me so I learn to deal with them. Now I don't have the right to break up relationships I don't think fit, but I have the right to my opinion of it.
since I made that second comment in your blog, I think we all know where I stand on the issue of interracial relationships. To answer the question Anonymous had about if someone is against inter-racial relationships, does that make them racist....
hmmm... I think those going into an inter-racial relationship expect that they will stumble upon people who don't agree with it. I would say that someone that feels so strongly against it should be more worried about themselves than about who others are dating. Race just happens to be one thing that is different between the two people who are dating that they can't help but display for others to see, but they are into each other, so who cares. Wouldn't the effort and energy put towards getting angry over inter-racial relationships be better spent and focused toward something positive that could actually do some good.
I don't know if it makes someone a racist, but it makes them nosy, and close minded. It also doesn't further us as a society in getting over all these stereotypes and prejudices that everyone is always so hung up on. If one person could see past them to connect with one person outside their own race in a way like that, that's a beautiful thing.
Are you actually saying that things that have nothing to do with us directly does not affect us? We should only care about things if it directly involoves us?
yes Anonymous I am saying that in this matter.
You don't have to be nosy to spot interracial relationships because they stand out. Just like you don't have to be focused on something to form an opinion of it. We form opinions on just about anything that happens to us or cross our paths. Some may agree with these opinions and many others may not, but we are all entitled to them. From your pic I take it that you are not black, well believe it or not no matter how much history you read or black men you date, you will never know what it is like to be a black woman. For go, you will probably never understand why I feel the way I feel so debating this topic with you is not neccessary.
One (One) of the reasons I feel the way I do about interracial dating has allot to do with my past experiences. Another reason is my personal experiences today. So there is no 1 reason that I feel the way I feel, all I know is this is the way I feel. Yes some of the same problems might arise in any race, but how we deal with the problems is what is difference.
Closed minded, so if you don't agree with all my point of views that mean you are close minded too? What makes one have an open mind? Maybe I have tried to see things from others point of view, but could not see it, does that mean I am lclosed minded?
It is either one way or another. Things that happens to us indirectly in one situation may affect us, but other indirect things that happen to us will not. So we control our own destiny? Who decides which things should affect us that has no direct connection?
"One (One) of the reasons I feel the way I do about interracial dating has allot to do with my past experiences. Another reason is my personal experiences today."
~Anonymous
So, what types of experiences cause people to dislike interracial relationships?
I am sorry Focus because I don't think I caught your response to my question. I asked you what made you change your mind (well become open minded)about interracial dating. Normally there is a reason for us changing our mind whether it is because something has happen or was brought to our attention.
Another question, why was you close minded about interracial dating to start? Would it by any chance have anything to do with your past experiences and does your present experiences have something to do with your new found perspective?
"you will never know what it is like to be a black woman. For go, you will probably never understand why I feel the way I feel so debating this topic with you is not neccessary."
Just because I'm not a black woman, why is it not worth discussing this topic with me? We're discussing interracial relationships here, that means two races, not what it means to be a black woman. And if that was the topic, I'm pretty sure each woman would define that just a little bit different as well.
I'm more open minded about interracial dating because why discriminate if she's a woman of any color and Loves ME like that then why not? Now the reason I was closed mind before was because of the Negative mess I was fed about Dating outside my race via Adults when I was younger. I allowed them to shut my mind and eyes to what God has created because of their Hate. I refuse to allow that to happen to my children
I only debate issues that I feel I have a good chance of getting my objector to see my point of view and since you are not a black woman I just don't see a chance of that happening. Yes, not every black woman carries the same perspective on interracial dating that I carry; however, I feel as though i would have a better chance of getting her to see things my way because she has PROBABLY (not always) been thru either the same or similar circumstances.
What are some reasons some people only search for mates outside thier race? Don't take this personal. I don't know you personally and I can't change who you date or who dates you. I am just offering my personal opinion on the subject. I am chosing not to debate you on this particular topic, which I thought was my right. Please forgive me if I am wrong.
Why is it negative mess now? You grow up believing what you was taught to believe and you formed different choices based on those same beliefs. I hear you say that NOW you feel this way, but never explained what changed your mind. What happened recently to make you feel as tho all the advice you was given as a child just negative talk that holds no merrits?Have you recently met a white woman who made you feel differently about the possibility of you being with a woman of another race?
Was you not aware of the fact that God created us all when you choose not to date outside your race?
Sorry FF2020 dang i missed some good ones you gotta text me bot 30 seconds before you post and dont post anythin before I get out of work 3 O'clockish.... lmao.... shoot me a text forreal though... and for this topic ??? I say to each their own and it dont cost a dime to stay out of mine!!! If what you see bothers you do the right thing and turn away or turn the channel.... Keep it real or keep it movin.....
If we teach our children that they do have choices, but along with those choices come certain consequences, they should be fine. Depending how far we come as a nation will decide the consequences. During the days of slavery, date outside your race often meant death, especially if it is a black man dating a white woman. Today, you will get funny looks and sometimes jailed (LOL) if you dated outside your race. Who knows how things will be in the future because things like interracial dating is becoming the norm. Most of our nationality will be considered other. No more black or white, just a bunch of others.
I actually tell my kids not to date outside thier race; however, I would love them noless if they did because they have made the choice for themselves even tho I gave them my opinion on the situation. My children will not agree with all my views, but thru providing guidance for them I will need to express my point of view on certain situations.
I bet the adults in your life who was against interracial dating had good reason (well in thier opionion) to feel the way they do.
I get a lot of feed back on the Race relations hu? hahaha! I guess well all have to agree to disagree on some things. I honestly think not everything is a black and white issue but I Also think Alot I mean Alot is.. So I'm going to keep posting and AK man I got you I'll text you in a sec...
Interracial relationship does not equal black man/white woman. we're talking about ALL interracial relationships here and we still haven't come to a conclusion about the original question.
New topic! Inamorata likes black men and they like her. Point taken.
Who said that? I've never spoken about preferences I may or may not have. I just don't see why people get down on other people for dating other races.
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It doesn't really bother me , as long as the man is not a "sistah" basher. Some men get scorned and they cross over for that reason . Now I don't condone that and I don't think its right . BUT if its for true love, GREAT... love has no color. I just don't like "uncle tom " type brothas, but to each his own. And all relationships affect everybody , it may not be directly , but universally it does . OJ and Nicole changed alotttt of peoples' views . So don't say other peoples' relationships can't affect you.
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