This Post here was given to me by a fellow blogger (hindsight) and she was asking how many women actually carry past hurt into their new relationships?
Now me being a man I have been the victim of "him" Him being the ex boyfriend whom hurt my current and I'm dealing with her non trust issues or I gotta break down some barrier just to get close to her. Plus truth be told I don't wan to work that damn hard on repairing stuff. Why Must I pay for mess this other dude did? How many women can actually admit to carrying old baggage into their next relationship and how can that be corrected? I'm sure it's going to come up that Men bring baggage to blah blah blah but I'm talking about Women now so don't go there. In the words of My daughter, "Girl Boo!" what it means I have no clue but the context of which it's used is hilarious to me, hahahaha!
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we as women may carry some baggage however the bags in which the baggage is carried in is well padded...that's why yawl wanna see what's in the bags..don't play...
I don't know what the heck babydoll just said but I think women do carry baggage into the relationship but it's not my fault if you let me bring it in....Look deep before you leap.
WHAT?!!!! BABYDOLL WHAT YOU SAYING? ANYWAY That's why I interview Mugs!!
if the package looks good on the outside...no matter how much the baggage is...you always wanna try to see how well the bag looks on your arm for a bit....
Not if you are use to Nice things like if you're well off a Bentley is a bentley nothing new to you.
true however....
most nice things have a scrap somewhere here or there if you look hard enough....including bentley's....regardless if you're used to having nice things or not....there's always a flaw!
Wow, I understood what babydoll was saying straight away.
The reality of baggage is we all have it. As a man you should be willing to deal with it, cause there are women walking around in the world with matching luggage SETS behind you. And that's not a diss, that is just the real. The baggage is not only made up of hurts, but experiences, that make each woman better and lets be real, just a little smarter than she was before.
I think that baggage is a good thing. We just have to manage how we let it bleed out. Like not talking to the new dude about what the old dude did. Not yelling at the new dude for not taking out the trash because the old dude never did. Give him a chance to make his own mistakes and judge him on his individual movements.
That being said, the MINUTE he shows ways that we recognize from previous relationships call him on it, not in a "My last dude did this, so I know what you are about", but in a "Hey babe, I don't appreciate how you handled ..." Use the baggage as extended knowledge base, like wikipedia, not like roadblocks.
But yep! I have baggage/experience, so I am expecting a cat to be up on his game, cause there are certain things I have already seen, been through and do not need repeat performances, period.
I know for sure I have baggage, however my baggage helps me have a much better perspective and it helps me to not be so naive when it comes to men. Now i used to handle my baggage very poorly, but now oooooooooo now my baggage is waxed and bronzed it is a trophy, battle wounds, whatever. but like I said focus look deep before you leap, and don't discriminate against women with baggage you may be the very reason someone has some.
It's easy to carry "baggage" if you've been hurt before (who hasn't?). Some dress them up w/ designer labels, others switch from small clutches to over-sized duffel bags w/ handles & wheels! Either way, one can't let the "baggage" consume her thoughts of the new person. Taking from the other example, Bag Lady, you gon' miss yo' bus/Honda draggin' all them bags! Lol... Pack Light!
Tmac did you say we should be willing to deal with it? Man hell nah!! Why we gotta deal with some other dude mess?? He messed you up don't bring that mess to us!
I don't think men should have to deal with it in the same way we don't have to deal with their BS! However brotha's you have to realize like Raven said we all have issues, ya'll do as well so don't act all brand new focus!
I am Brand New Hindsight!! Hindsight I think you looking for a fight.
Yep, that's what I said. We have to deal with your baggage and man-ego stuff, ya'll can deal with a little baggage. Especially at our age, where our baggage is, how hindsight put, bronzed like a trophy, seriously... unless the baggage is a chick constantly hitting you over the head with her past, ya'll should be willing to deal, cause the baggage is also what makes that woman know enough to know that you are good catch.
YEAH I SAID IT FOCUS AND I AGREE SOMEWHAT WITH T-MAC
Preach Raven Preach!!!!! Ummm Hindsight let go of the Tithes and offering plate and T-Mac Go straight to Alter Call right now.
hahahahahahhaha
OH and Take Tommy from My other post with you he needs "JESUS" in fact put him in the baptize pit and keep him under a few. Why no one comment on his azz? (not his azz literally no homo) hahaha!
Okay can we talk about sex, i'm horny
Okay hindsight ... focus, you have a request on here... I suppose its time for a topic change.
ummmmmmmm what type topic????
thank you for your support T-mac- why do men lie about their POLE size, why do they lie about the stroke, it's false advertisement.
do short men really have shorter.....
To the last question: "No" short men don't have shorter ... ahems... I used to date a guy who was 6'7" and lets just say tall men don't have longer either (sad but true)
ummmmmm do skinny women have deep umm Pockets hahaha!!
I haven't seen any other men on here to answer that ... so focus, what's up, do they? I hear "No", but then again, cats who like me, wouldn't necessarily be feelin a "skinny" chick anyway.
T-Mac I would have been so upset about that, now if the size isn't right they must have skillz in other areas but I know i"m not skinny so I can't even speak on deep pockets but I do know skinny chicks have plenty of bone if you like getting poked ahhahahahhaha just kidding don't get mad skinny girls
He warned me, so I wasn't mad, but I did think he was kidding ... I didn't really know what to say to him and I am not an "other areas" chick. I can do without the "other areas" but I do require, the main course, if you will (LOL).
But no one has answered the lie about the stroke and POLE size question, cause I am WAY curious!
Men lie for the same reason we lie, egos. How many of us said that we had the best nana? How do we know; this is merely our own opinion of ourselves. We get breast implants and now they have EXTEND,,, Hahahha
My bad, EXTENZE!! What we don't have, today we can always find a way to get it.. Plus, most women don't tell her man that he has a small _ _ _ _.. until she gets angry with him and then she's only hating. Therefore, he has NO clue he's lying.
wow Ms. Private that's true I guess but how do some Men know she's not Lying about saying we got a small package when she say out of anger?
I gotta chime in on this one... I wouldn't say anything out of anger, but Trust me, if I wasn't "feeling" him during, I would speak up then and there! Shut that *ish down!!!
It's not said out of anger, we just get enough courage to say it. Sex is not everything so I'm willing to work with it and I'm not trying to crush my man's feelings. Well that is until after he tries to crush mines. Now I will tell him what I like and if he's pleasing me,,, but in the right way... It's not what you say it's how you say it...
As far as baggage goes, it can co one of two things: build us up or hold us down. I turn my garbage into art and I learn from my lessons. I also know that no ones the same so I will give everyone a fair chance. However, I do know the game so it's not bad baggage when I call him out... It's game recognizing game. See how I made an Art out of my garbage??? LOL I turned it into GAME!!!!
Ok, I'm sorry for talking so much but I have a good topic,,, Why today is it so exceptable for women to be girlfriend number two? How can relationships withstand girlfriend number two and the internet? It's so easy to cheat these days with technology be the way it is. This messes with the TRUST factor. I want to believe you, but I don't trust her,,,LOL Naw I don't trust neither one of their azzez,,LOL joking. But for real, why is taking second place so exceptable today.
This is My last one...
I don't think it's healthy to carry all those bags, thats why i think you have to do some spring cleaning before you go garage selling, cuz you might wind up with the same Crap you brought last summer from a different sale!!! If you know what i mean!! I try to practice the "check and correct method" before i engage in anything else!! AND MEN GOT EVEN HEAVIER BAGGS, Cuz Ya'll can hold more!!! lol there i said it FOCUS2020!!!! Personally i think im to lazy to carry bags, i leave them at the door, and grab the on the way out!!!! Keep it moving!!!
Ok that's cool Traci just make sure you don't throw out something that you can use later... That's all I'm saying.. One man's junk is another man's treasure. Over time it gets hard to tell because wolves these days are disguised in more than sheep's clothing. Therefore, I always try to do self-checks because if I'm in check I can see right threw em...
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