I was asked by one of my fellow blog people a good question.. How much of you do you put in convincing your best Friend Not commit suicide? I mean some people will go to the point to where they were the counselor and now they need counseling. I call that, "Adopting someones else Demons" and I'd like to know how far you'd go?
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It's your best friend I think that goes without saying.
Dang focus you tend to sound very selfish and not compassionate at all
Sometimes, well most of the time those are only empty threats in search of attention... I have a cousin who tells them all the time,,, real dramatic person and has waaaaaaaay too much self pitty.. Every issue with her is life threatening. Well that is until she milks it for all the attention she going to get from it. When she walks into the room, the whole family be like,, oh boy,, here she go..
At some point, some of us became enablers... She would do it because she knew certain people would give her the attention she saught. I always keep it real with her and if she keep talking crazy about killer herself to me,,, I tell her to do it... with other stuff of course... And remind her of how they're hurting other around her who love her (her kids)... It's not just your life you are living... I tell her to pray and remind her of all the ways she's blessed... If it's over a man, I tell her to deal wit it and ain't NObody worth it... Give it a few months,, she'd be askin herself what she seen in him... But I ain't gonna keep allowin her to sing the song after sorry song saying the same story. So when people tcome to me ,,, they are ready to hear the truth because that's what I'm gonna tell them...
I'm with that @Refuse to.
And Hindsight all I'm saying is once I've done everything in my Power to speak truth and positiveness into a situation I'm done. I think To many of us get burned out and allow other peoples issues to become ours and we then start having health issues, effects our jobs, and our home lives all because we invested all this into a situation that you've gave your all on. So Let go and Let God and let a professional that gets paid to handle this type stuff get this person help. Also if this person really wants help they will seek it by all means. I refuse to allow someone else to come in and destroy what God and Myself put together. I can give only so much before I'm empty and will need to be given back to.
Hindsight on this one, I'm going to have to agree with Focus, when is enough enough?
I think enabling hurts and don't help anyone.. Thru that dependence brings pressure upon that relationship too.. There's a fine line between supportive and enablin... Often it takes for us to hit rock bottom before we're able to bounce back too so... Maybe that person would actually deal wit the situation if the enabler doesn't keep being there...listen,, and not tellin them how they REALLY feel..Most people tell eveyone else how they feel about what that person is doing instead of the one they need to be telling
What we agree Focus!!!
Interesting posts...
As I see it when someone is talking about suicide we are in the best position to help them get professional help. Not that we don't want to listen, but as they download to us they can see the burden it puts on us which can exasperate the situation. When we are talking we are reaching out. Anyone who has been on that side of depression knows that there aren’t enough words in the world to ease that pain. You need God, counseling, pills – at least two of these and perhaps all three (pills are questionable in my view).
I know from experience that keeping someone “afloat” can dang near kill you in the process. Point them towards help, a professional who is trained to assist, be it your pastor or a psychologist. This isn’t about giving up on your BFF, but most aren’t trained to handle this kind of despair. I will walk through fire for my BFF and walk him straight to God/Allah/Yahweh.
Suicide is a very touchy subject.. we all know someone who threatens for attention, but what do you do when someone actually harms themselves? A friend of mine overdosed on pain meds b/c a relationship that she lost herself for ended. I did overtime w/ this one: I prayed, consoled, counseled, babysat and motivated her; realizing no Pastors, Parents, friends or anyone could help and she ended up trying to end her life! I felt so helpless, but when you've done all you can, well... what else can you do? (She moved and seems to be happier, but is she really ever going to be happy?)
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