Now this is something that seems to be a slight debate among men and women. But My question is, "Do you think a Man should automatically know how to hit your spot when you don't even have a clue where your spot is?" I am a firm believer that a woman that does not know how to give herself an orgasm should learn before getting tick off at a man for not giving her one. See I think there is a lot of finger pointing who fault it is when actually it may not be anyone's.. Or it could be the Female fault for not knowing what the hell her body likes. Reason I say that is you have some women that like it doggy style or like the ride, anal, or even get satisfaction off giving Head but some women don't like any of that so how is a dude suppose to know?
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No I don't personally feel like man is totally responsible for making sure the woman is pleased, in my opinion it goes both ways and communication is the key... Women wanting the man to figure it all out are completely selfish both parties should be able to say what does and does not work for them..however if your not hitting it right you just aren't hitting it right
It definitely goes both ways. (That's what she said.) Men and women both need to be open about what they like/don't like and what really gets them going. Paying attention to body language is key too though....I generally find that is a good indicator of how into "it" somebody is. But I can't imagine you wouldn't be good at pleasing Focus. Just a thought! :)
I'm just saying a lot of women don't know their own body so beating me up because you didn't get yours in the time we was performing sounds like her problem not the men. hahaha!!
I believe that a woman who knows her body and understands herself sexually enjoys sex much more than women who don't. That being said, I think a man should explore his woman's full vessel and teach himself what pleases her, because she may know how to get over the rainbow, but he may have a different path to get her there.
But to answer your question, I think it starts with knowing what you really like. The reality is - what satisfies you in one situation may not work in another. Each experience is a journey.
ummm you need a comma or something in there @ beth the whole (who wouldn't be good at pleasing focus) threw me for a loop..
LOL! I just read Beth's again... HA! Sounds like you are pleasing yourself! That helped with my boring day.
thx T-mac!! hahahaha!! Well nothing wrong with pleasing yourself...
That's how we learn our bodies, right?
i think that it's both the men and women...when you're getting your horizontal on it should be about pleasing each other there for communication is the key..women should tell the men what please them and vice versa...now if after that the job doens't get done then that's an issue
Okay I asked my girls in the office about this one and we all agree that a man doesn't have to know exactly how to hit your spot initially. However, once you have been with someone for a while you both will become more knowledgable about your mate and what works and doesn't work.
Now there are some cases when a guy will come through and do everything just the way you like, but that is typically few and far between. Also, those men who do everything just right from the beginning you may want to watch out for.
In most cases you want someone where you can learn about each other together in an effort make your experience only one that you two will experience with each other.
I like these comments big time so you do agree that it's not HIS fault for not just coming thru knowing everything thang! And Most women should not even get pissed about it chalk it up and next time get hers because for sure he's going to get his..
I officially co-sign with "1PC" Great post!
Hey Focus, No I DO NOT agree with that. It's not about fault, but at the same time the "get yours cause I'ma get mine" thing doesn't work.
Both parties have to be about giving to each other. Even if a woman doesn't get hers she still should have had a REALLY GREAT experience. If she's mad, there's something else going on... (in my opinion)
Umm now on focus being able to please someone let's not boost his ego lolol.
I do agree with tmac that a man can take you too far better places than you could go on your own..
but don't worry focus with a little practice your skills will improve LOLOLOL
hahahaha!! OOOH you think this about me hu? that's cute... ASS-UME on!!
Everyone has really great comments on this. I agree it is really selfish to think that oh well if she doesn't get hers that's on her. If you are in fact with someone you care about you should want them to get theirs too. If your mate isn't experienced they may need that extra help/push to get the ball rolling/or should I say the juices flowing.
lololol is all i can say
You know men kill me well if you don't get yours I got mine mentality, that's crap, at least try and find out what works that's a selfish ass attitude one that would need some quick adjusting, it's a very selfish person that says I got mine and if you don't get yours whatever, how bout let's explore together isn't that fun also!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT HAPPENED TO TEAMWORK, WHAT HAPPENED TO MAKING SURE WERE BOTH HAPPY, WHAT HAPPENED TO NOT BEING A SELFISH BASTARD WHETHER THE BASTARD IS MALE OR FEMALE
word, hindsight. sex can be a spiritual uplifting, exhilirating, and freeing experience. It should never be one sided.
The more giving and engaged it is the better for both.
And in that, knowing our own bodies is a great advantage.
LMAO, sorry hun! I meant "But I can't imagine you wouldn't be good at pleasing, Focus". Meaning YOU. To others. Hahaha...
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